What makes a friendship?
It might begin with a simple smile...
Whether you’re meeting for the first time or for the hundredth time it helps to start with a smile. One of the greatest things ever is to know someone is excited to see you! It shows you’re worth knowing.
There is no set definition for friendship. It’s different for everyone because we’re all different. In high school you see many types of friendship - some that are loud and proud and some that are quiet but close.
Some people are friends because they get something out of it, like food or lifts. Some friendships are built on a similar sense of humour, shared passions or going through tough times together. Some friendships are light and fun, others are deep and strong. Here are a few ingredients to make your friendship sandwiches all the more tasty and long lasting.
Keep an open heart.
Friendship is about giving of yourself, being vulnerable and welcoming someone with open arms and heart. For a person to feel comfortable with you, accept them as they are, because no one has it all figured out. A good friendship is a secure place where you both feel safe and respected.
Challenge each other.
Pals challenge each other to be their best selves and stay true to who they are. This doesn’t mean you completely disagree with everything they say and reach for the nearest thing to hurl at your mate. It doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to grow and change either. It means being honest, speaking up, asking the hard questions and sometimes giving a fresh perspective on a situation when someone might be in a rut.
You do this because you think they’re rad and would hate to see them make a dumb choice that could hurt them. It takes guts, but they’re your friend, so they’re worth the risk of you getting stung. They usually come back around anyway.
Cheer each other on.
Real friends are the people who want the best for each other. They see how terrific you are and let you know it. They are on your team, and they shout for joy when you kick a life goal.
Encouraging each other is a privilege and can make for some of the best memories, whether it is enjoying your comrade’s triumphs or sitting with them through their darkest days. Great friends remind us we’re worthwhile and loved, and we’re doing all right, when we get lost or make mistakes.
What other ingredients make friendship super tasty for you?
Written by Rebekah Skrabal