Whether we like it not, we are the selfie generation. Every few minutes thousands of selfies hit the internet worldwide. No surprise, as there are over 500 million Facebook lovers, 100 million Instagram hipsters and 650 million Twitter fans. (I got that from Google so it must be right ha!).
There has never been a time in history where our personal lives have been so PUBLIC!
We share EVERYTHING!
The breakfast we just digested, the gym sesh we just dominated, the latte we enjoyed, the assignment we just aced, the boy we just kissed, the cookies we just baked, the job we just scored, the sermon we just nailed, the friends we just chilled with and even the baby we just popped out (oops was that just me? Bit gross).
We literally share EVERYTHING (nothing is off limits)!
I’ll be totally honest for a second, often times I do it for others (not all the time but a lot of the time!).
We share because we want to show people how cool our lives are, how fit we are after making a green smoothie, how popular we are after hanging with our main girls or how pretty we look when we just woke up with no make-up on (haha not me!).
We post selfies because we think we look aight (said in a cool slang way obviously) and hope others think so too (#humblebrag).
We update, we snap, we tweet, we post because we want OTHERS to give us their attention.
We want LOVE (or should I say likes!).
But what’s the problem? How is this affecting us at our core level?
These are the dilemmas I have faced. Maybe you can relate? Or maybe you are just so secure you’ve never indulged in a single one!
1. We are addicted.
The first thing we do in the morning is grab our iPhones to see who liked our latest status update or check Instagram to count the comments. We are so attached to our phones we feel naked without them. We have withdrawals when we haven’t checked our updates or scrolled our news feed in a 24-hour period. When we post a pic we go back every five minutes and hit refresh to see who liked it. Have you done any of these? Am I the only one?
The definition of an addiction is:- a state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit forming
My name is Sabrina Peters and I am an addict. I think I need to go to rehab! Maybe we can go together? X
2. We end up putting our value, worth and happiness in the hands of others.
I often hand over so much of my time, my energy and my attention to complete strangers! I have spent hours at night scrolling through my Facebook feed, reading random things about people I haven’t even met in the flesh. I have got a little high when I have seen comments like #babe #stunning #hottie.
I’ve come to the conclusion it doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks of me, it matters what I think of me.
A friend of mine recently wrote,
Every day I spend trying to get the applause of others is a day I’ve wasted.
Preach sister, it’s true!
I want to be satisfied with exactly who I am, because let’s face it, I am stuck in this skin for the rest of my life! I may as well own it, love it, embrace it!
3. We have more friends but our friendships have less depth.
We have become a gen that is choosing quality over quantity, we think more is better. But is that true?
"Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky." Brene Brown
The more social media we have, the more we think we’re connecting, yet we can often disconnect from those right in front of our face!
I don’t need thousands of friends, I need true friends - ones that really know me not just my profile. I want people who love me even when they get up close.
4. We pay more attention to people we’re not even with.
I am prone to ruining moments by trying to capture the moment - just ask my husband! I often get so obsessed with taking a good photo on a date night or family day that I can lose the plot and end up killing the fun for everyone. What a waste - trying to take a picture while missing the point!
I want to LIVE life and be present in the moment.
My phone is just an accessory, I have to treat it like one. People are more important then accessories.
At the end of the day I don’t want everyone else to think I am a good wife, I want my husband to think I am!
5. We are constantly comparing.
I love the way Steven Furtick puts it,
"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel."
We can find ourselves riddled with self-doubt because we fixate on how beautiful, healthy, successful, smart and downright PERFECT everybody else’s life can seem.
But the problem is SOCIAL MEDIA is only one snippet of someone’s life. It’s the edited version, you don’t get to see the whole tape!
I love this,
Maybe she’s born with it - or maybe it’s a filter?
That makes me laugh every time I read it, it’s actually so true! That chick you envy may look flawless in her latest display picture - but who knows how many times she took that photo and how many different filters she used?
We are not supposed to be slaves to the perfect images of other people’s lives.
So does this mean I will stop posting selfies? Haha, PROBABLY NOT! Social media will always be a part of my life (it has huge benefits and really is a great tool for connecting!) but I am determined to not let it become my life. I am taking back control of my own happiness and self-worth. You should too. Sending a little love your way. x
By Sabrina Peters, Gen Y, Queensland
See more of Sabrina's writing at virgindiaries.com.au
First published September 2014