Let's face it, every little girl twirling in her pretty dress with fairy wings and sparkly Cinderella shoes knows she's a princess. She may dream of a frozen palace to rule, or she may brush her hair and sing to herself. In her heart she knows that she is beautiful, that she has a kingdom to rule and that there is someone out there who would give their life for her because they love her!
Unfortunately, between childhood and adulthood something usually happens to rob us of our innocence - there's a baddie in every good story!
Our belief that we are precious, that we are beautiful and that we are important is taken away. But just because someone strips us of our robe, our crown and our shoes, our dignity, our freedom and our innocence, it doesn't mean that our underlying worth changes.
Just because it feels that way, doesn't make it true!
It happens in different ways to each of us. Some of us are bullied, or neglected, or have mean things said to us that we vividly remember. Often we are hurt unintentionally because the world is full of imperfect people who hurt us without meaning to. Some of us even face physical or sexual abuse. It seems like no-one makes it through to adulthood without some scars.
All these hurts, big and small, are destructive, and distort how we see ourselves. They tell us we are less than worthy of wearing a crown on our head.
Our challenge as we grow is to realise the childhood belief of our true value and amazing identity is not a fantasy but reality.
Sure, you’re not the centre of the universe, and some parts of your fairy tale may not come true, but you can find your true identity and learn to value yourself again. You may have to fight for it (every good story has a great fight scene) but you are worth fighting for. You owe it to yourself and to the world to be who you were made to be!
Life has knocked us all around in some way or another, so as bella sisters, let's help each other to believe again. Talk to people who affirm your life, beauty and value and be someone who affirms life, beauty and value in others.
When we know who we are, we can live in strength and with dignity. We won't need to compare ourselves but can support each other, encouraging each other to stand tall as the queens-in-the-making we are!
Stand tall and wear your crown proudly! Even if no one else can see it, we can!
by Gretchen Mitchell