I'm an extrovert, a public speaker, a debater, a singer and a history lover. I’m someone with a keen eye and an ENFJ personality type. The things I mentioned above are the labels I've been given - the positive ones. I could possibly start a list of negative ones, but truthfully I don't remember them! I choose to live my life focused on all the positives around me, rather than the negatives. I learned these lessons after a recent tough year.
How do I stay positive?
I most certainly do not wake up every morning and go "Today is going to be great!". Some days I don't even want to wake up. But it's a choice to start my day, no matter how wretched I feel or how much I dread that Mathematics exam, with a positive attitude. It’s a deliberate decision, to choose love, and to choose who I'm going to be.
My heart breaks for any girl who buys into the negative labels she is given, who falls for the lies others would have her believe about her worth. I’m not saying she should wear a mask, but she can choose to gossip about the hurt and pain others have put upon her, or she can choose to be an empowered woman who knows she's better than the words that are hurled at her. She is more than the labels, both positive and negative, and she is a woman who can learn to acknowledge her worth. It's not easy but it is one of the best things she can do for herself!
Here are my top 5 tips:
1. If you feel like crying, go for it!
Crying NEVER, makes you weak; crying, I've found, can help. It helps you acknowledge that you aren't OK and sometimes it’s just nice to clean out your eyes!
2. Stand Tall.
You are you and there is no one more like you than you and you are so wonderfully made for a purposeful life.
3. Get some good girlies around you.
I know when I've gone through difficult situations and when I will go through more, I'll always have a group of fantastic girls, who have different perspectives to help me regain my footing. Get some good boys around you too, ones who respect you, who can be real and have a laugh with you.
4. Smile... a lot!
Now don't have a fake smile, but a real one that doesn't fade because of circumstances. Wear it with pride to show yourself that you really are okay and you will overcome whatever you are currently facing! (This is my personal favourite.)
5. Surround yourself with inspirational and strong people.
Surround yourself with big sisters (real or adopted), youth leaders, trusted teachers, chaplains, parents, older role models, who've lived through a lot and can put things into perspective for you. These people will often fill you with positivity and, contrary to popular belief, are often right there for you when you most need it.
Be encouraged, you girls who've recently faced challenging circumstances such as a death close to home, a broken relationship, a shattered friendship, to you who cry for the broken world and its starving children and those of you who are doing just fine. You’re more than how you’re labelled. You’re worth more than I can say!
by Becky Mullen